Motherhood : Less NO and more YES
"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass...it's about learning to dance in the rain."
I know you've heard the quote, we have all seen it pop up somewhere a million times. The problem is that I don't think we ever really take quotes seriously. Sure, they sound good, or they look good posted on your Facebook wall, but how often do we actually stop and take a few minutes out of our day to put ourselves smack dab in the middle of one of these words of wisdom?
Not nearly enough.
This afternoon brought us some serious crazy rain. Not a sprinkle or a drizzle, but a FULL ON DOWN POUR!! I stood in the doorway with my twins as we watched the rain drench everything in sight. The girls kept pointing outside, "rain", "rain" they said, over and over, their curiosity taking over. When I was a mom in my 20's there was absolutely and unequivocally no chance in hell you would see me out "dancing in the rain". Nope.
But as a mom in my 30's I have come to realize and see things a bit differently. It's sad to admit this but I sometimes wonder if I could be a different mom to my older boys now than I was when I had them 14 and 12 years ago. I appreciate now how sacred and precious the moments are with my kids-all of them. I know that each chance I get to do something memorable with them is a gift. These moments are fleeting and easy to be taken for granted. I believe as a mom in my 20's I did not take my time with my children as serious as I should have, and I wish more than anything I could change that.
Standing there now as 30-something mom, watching this torrential rain storm, there was a small tug at my gut, a tiny me-voice that kept saying "get your ass out in that rain girl!" So I scooped up my girls and guess what? We ran out in that rain. We played and splashed and laughed and giggled. We were soaked and we were freezing. But we were having fun and I didn't care one bit that I was cold and wet.
I am a woman who is full of mistakes and flaws. I have stupid body issues and self-confidence issues and feelings of guilt almost daily. I know that I am not perfect nor would I want to be. I just want to show up for my children and I want them to know that they can make mistakes too and that they will still be ok. I want to show them that doing the uncomfortable things, the scary things, the things that we would normally say "no" to, will usually be the exact things that they need in their life.
I want to be an example of strength and empowerment. I want them to know that taking chances are ok and that they have more power than anyone will ever tell them. I want my kids to see me laugh and have fun. I want to show them that life doesn't always have to be so serious. I want them to know that just because things might not be the way they should be at times, that it's still ok to have fun and be silly. And I want them to know that sometimes, like today, I'm doing things for the very first time, right along side them. We are learning together.
The only thing that would have made today's rain dance even better would have been to have the boys here to join us too.
Moms, get your asses out there and dance in the rain. Dance with your kids or let them see you dance alone. Go first and let them know that it might be scary, but that it's ok. Show them that everything will be ok.